In many ways, ten years is a long time.
Like I said, its a long time.
But then again, it really doesn’t seem like such a long time, not when you’re married to your best friend.
Ten years ago today, Sunny and I stood before everyone we knew and loved and married each other. In many ways, it seems like another lifetime ago. I honestly cannot remember what my life was even like before I married her. Whatever it was, it was nowhere near as fulfilling and rewarding and satisfying as my life is today. The time I’ve spent married to her has, in many ways, been the only balm to help soothe much of the pain I’ve known in my life. I really can’t even begin to think about what kind of person I would be — what kind of man I would be — if we had never met. So in that regard, ten years is a long time, long enough for love to grow deeper and stronger and more nuanced. Long enough to really know someone and to be known in return and — in the knowing — to allow someone to change you to the degree that you see yourself becoming a better version of yourself.
But today I find myself thinking about just how quickly ten years can pass. Even as I say the words — “we’ve been married ten years” — it sounds a bit odd. It just doesn’t seem like its been that long. Its as if these ten years have been an elongated moment in time for us. We joke about it sometimes but in our minds we still think of ourselves as a young couple, newly married, right out of college. That is, until we look around and realize we have three children and a mortgage and a mini-van…then reality sinks in again!
Sunny, I hope we have many, many more years together because ten years simply cannot contain the great joy that is mine that comes from being your husband. Sometimes I’m still amazed by the fact that you choose to love me, even when I know I’m hard to love. You image God to me by your unconditional, unwavering love. I wish there was more I could do to show you how much I love you. I wish you a happy anniversary and I pray that we have many more decades of life together. I never knew I could be so blessed.
August 14, 2009