The song O Come, O Come, Emmanuel originated as a series of monastic chants over 1,200 years ago. These chants were later combined into a single hymn in the 12th century which was translated into English in the 1850s. The lyrics are drawn from Old Testament prophecies anticipating the birth of the Messiah. This sense of expectation is captured well in the opening lines of the song:
O come, O come, Emmanuel
And ransom captive Israel
That mourns in lonely exile here
Until the Son of God appear
The line that captures my attention is “lonely exile.” Nothing breaks our hearts quite like separation. The holidays can be a wonderful time of fellowship and laughter and joy, but they can also be painful reminders of “lonely exile” for some of us. Maybe you have an empty chair around your table this year. Maybe you’re estranged from a family member. Maybe your children are old enough now that you have to “share” them with their in-laws — and you might be struggling with that adjustment.
The best Christmas songs reflect these kinds of realities. As we navigate our way through life, we face a series of “lonely exiles” — and the greatest separation of all is the one created by sin.
But the best Christmas songs also point us to see the birth of Jesus as God’s answer to our exile. The refrain of O Come, O Come, Emmanuel captures this:
Rejoice! Rejoice! Emmanuel
Shall come to you, O Israel
There is such joy in the knowledge that through Jesus, God has come to us. He is present with us because He has promised that He would never leave us and never forsake us. No matter our circumstances, we can rejoice in the truth that, in Jesus, God is always WITH us.
As we continue our Herald series, examining the four angelic announcements which accompany the birth of Jesus, we turn our attention to the story recorded in Matthew’s Gospel. In the previous post, we read Luke’s story about the angel who visited Mary; now we hear about a similar experience from the life of Joseph.

Now the birth of Jesus Christ took place in this way. When his mother Mary had been betrothed to Joseph, before they came together she was found to be with child from the Holy Spirit. And her husband Joseph, being a just man and unwilling to put her to shame, resolved to divorce her quietly. But as he considered these things, behold, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream, saying, “Joseph, son of David, do not fear to take Mary as your wife, for that which is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit. She will bear a son, and you shall call his name Jesus, for he will save his people from their sins.” All this took place to fulfill what the Lord had spoken by the prophet:
“Behold, the virgin shall conceive and bear a son, and they shall call his name Immanuel” (which means, God with us).
When Joseph woke from sleep, he did as the angel of the Lord commanded him: he took his wife, but knew her not until she had given birth to a son. And he called his name Jesus.
Matthew 1:18-25
Matthew tells us that Joseph is a just man — which means that he is righteous — but he’s also a good man. When he learns that Mary is pregnant prior to their wedding day, he decides to end the marriage, but he doesn’t want to expose Mary to public disgrace, so he decides to end things quietly.
But an angel of the Lord visits Joseph in a dream, telling him that Mary’s child has been conceived by the Holy Spirit. And Joseph is told to name the child “Jesus” because He will save His people from their sins.
And Matthew says this is the fulfillment of an ancient prophecy. About seven hundred years earlier, Isaiah predicted that a virgin would conceive and give birth to a son who would be known known as Immanuel, “God with us” (Isaiah 7:14). Being a righteous man, Joseph likely remembered this word of prophecy. Presumably, the angel helps Joseph to see that he has a part to play in the fulfillment of God’s plan, which is being fulfilled in the virgin birth of this child. His unique birth is a sign that God is with His people.
The word “with” is a really small word but it is also a life-changing word. It simply means, “to be accompanied by another.” And sometimes that knowledge can be enough to change your life — just knowing that someone is with you.
- When you’re the new kid at school and someone invites you to join in with their group, to sit at their lunch table.
- When you’re grieving and your best friend drives all through the night just to hold your hand and join you in your pain.
- When your friends and family gather around to celebrate your birthday and you know, “These are my people.”
These moments are powerful because someone chooses to be with you.
So it’s only natural that we would bring this same idea into our relationship with God. In our “lonely exile” we long for God to be with us. You can hear this in the way we pray: we ask God to be with the people we love. I’ve prayed that prayer at every wedding and every funeral over which I have presided for the last 25 years. Whether in grief or joy, the most comforting thought we can imagine is God being with us.
And in Jesus, God says, “I’m right here…I’m with you.”
The most repeated promise in the Bible is God saying to His people, “I am with you.” it’s as if we have this universal desire to know that we’re not alone — and God seems to have an equal desire to let us know that He is always with His people. Here are a few examples from the scriptures:
When God spoke to Moses out of the burning bush, He told him to lead the Israelites to the Promised Land. But that would mean going back to Egypt. This was the place of Moses’s greatest moral failure, the place where he killed a man and fled as a fugitive. But God says, “I need you to go back there.” God always makes you confront your guilt. He’s kind of relentless about this.
But Moses balks and says, “Who am I to do this? I’m a nobody. On top of that, I’m a wanted man — I’m a murderer. If I go back to Egypt, I’ll never get out of there alive.” And in response to this, God says in Exodus 3:12, “But I will be with you…” Essentially, He says, “Don’t worry. I’ve got this. Just follow Me and I will take care of the rest.”
God’s presence — His with-ness, if we can invent a word here — is great enough to overcome our guilt and our shame, our failures and our greatest mistakes. God says to Moses, “I’m with you every step of the way.”
And God repeats this same promise to Moses’s successor, Joshua, who has the daunting task of leading the Israelites into the Promised Land. God tells Joshua to go to a place he’s never been before; and he will be facing all of these new enemies, new challenges. And he will be doing this without Moses, who has been leading these people for forty long years. That’s a lot of change, a lot of transition — and Joshua was feeling what a lot of us feel whenever we go through times of transition: fear.
But God says to Joshua, “Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go,” (Joshua 1:9). God promises that He will give the Israelites every place where they set their feet in the land of Israel. All Joshua needs to do is remember that God is with him. God’s presence will help Joshua navigate through this uncertainty.
And it goes on from there throughout the Bible. The people and places may change, but God’s promise is steadfast. He says over and over, I am with you.
And in Jesus, God is saying to us, “I am with you.”
Like Moses, so many of us are crippled by shame. We have mistakes in our past, things we’ve said and done which still haunt us. And those feelings of regret and shame weigh so heavily upon us, to the point that we say, like Moses, “I’m nothing. I’m worthless.” But God’s response to all of that is to say, “Don’t worry. I am with you.” God offers the power of His presence as a counter to that narrative of negativity. God says, “I am with you,” because He knows that His presence is transformative. Just knowing that God is with you can change your life.
And just like Joshua, many of us are facing challenges that seem overwhelming. Maybe you’re dealing with some significant challenges at work or in your family. Maybe you’re dealing with strains in some area of your personal life, like your finances or a relationship. Like Joshua, many of us are fighting our fears. But that’s right where God shows up — in Joshua’s story, but also in our own lives. And He says, “I will be with you, wherever you go.” God must love saying this, because He says it all the time in the Bible. And He says it once and for all in Jesus.
Jesus as “God with us” is a strong counter to some of the false understandings people sometimes have about God. These misunderstandings are their own types of “lonely exile.”
God has abandoned me.
Sometimes people think, “God has forsaken me” and it almost always comes from an overwhelming sense of pain. When the pain is so strong that it’s the only thing we feel, we might assume God has turned His back on us. But the birth of Jesus is a clear signal that this is never the case. It’s a reminder of something God says in both the Old and New Testaments: Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you, (Deut. 31:6; Heb. 13:5). In Jesus, we have the fulfillment of this promise.
God is against me.
This is when we start thinking that God is actively opposing us. We think that He’s seeking to punish us or that He’s working against us as if He’s our enemy. But the birth of Jesus is a sign that God is FOR us, not against us. The arrival of the Messiah proclaims that God is on our side. Romans 8:31, If God is for us, who can be against us? The word of the Lord is certain and we can trust in His promise.
God is apathetic toward me.
Another misconception is “God doesn’t care about me.” With over eight billion people in our world today, some of us might start to think, “I’m so insignificant, there’s no way God could be concerned about me.” But the birth of Jesus counters that misconception, too. He promises to be with you because He cares. 1 Peter 5:7, Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.
All three of these views of God are proven to be false whenever we see Jesus as Immanuel, as evidence that God is indeed with us.
We have considered what all of this would have meant for Mary, but it’s worth considering Joseph’s role in the divine plan, too.
In a shame / honor culture, a pregnancy out of wedlock would have brought immense shame. But Mary wasn’t the only one who would have been shamed here. A great deal of shame would have been heaped upon Joseph, too, if he didn’t divorce Mary. Going through with the marriage would have been understood as a tacit admission of his own guilt. He would basically be saying, “The baby is mine,” — which would have brought shame to this righteous man.
But this is where we see some gospel in this story: Joseph willingly accepts this shame — shame which wasn’t rightfully his own, but he was willing to take it on anyway. In this way, Joseph proves himself to be the perfect earthly father for Jesus, the One who would eventually do the same thing by taking the blame for sins He didn’t commit, accepting a penalty He never deserved. Jesus did this because it was the will of the Father above, but also because His earthly father modeled this for him.
Do you know the first verse of the Bible? A lot of people can recite it from memory: Genesis 1:1, In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth. This foundational statement grounds everything that follows in the Scriptures.
But what about the last verse in the Bible? That one probably doesn’t come to mind as quickly, does it? But the last verse of the Bible contains a foundational truth as well: Revelation 22:21, The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with you all. Amen.
The Bible begins with this epic scene: God speaking the heavens and the earth into existence. It’s this huge, wide-angle scene with the creation of the sun and the moon and life here on earth. But the Bible closes with these simple words of hope: may the grace of Jesus be with His people. The entire Gospel is bound up in that one little word “with.” It’s a word which carries all of our deepest desires — to be with God someday. And Jesus has come to be with us to give us what we need more than anything else: the grace that leads to eternal life.
It’s as if God wants to say this one more time before we close our Bibles: I am with you. If My Son is with you, then My grace is with you. God promises to be with those who put their trust in Him.
Are you in need of His grace today? Are you in need of His presence?
Maybe you have everything you’ve ever wanted, and yet you still feel a sense of “lonely exile,” as if something is missing. That’s because you were made for more than what this life can offer. You were made for eternal union with God — and your soul remains restless until it finds rest in Him.
His grace is extended to any who would respond to Him in faith.
He is Immanuel, God with us. May His grace be with us all.












