Father’s Pure Joy

I delight greatly in the Lord; my soul rejoices in my God. – Isaiah 61.10

I come from a faith tradition with a high view of baptism. As a child, the richness and beauty of baptism was both explained to me and modeled for me in our church. For that, I am thankful. Now, as a parent myself, whenever I seek to share my faith with my children, baptism is inevitably a part of the discussion.

Abby Kate baptismAll of this made today a really special day for our family. This afternoon, with a host of family and friends looking on, Abby Kate was baptized into Christ. I reminded her of her name – Abby Katherine – which means “father’s pure joy.” The name is a fitting one. When I learned that were having a daughter, I literally jumped out of my seat and yelled at the top of my lungs. And being the father to this beautiful young lady has been nothing short of a joyful experience for me.

Prior to each child’s birth, Sunny and I selected a text that best represented our prayers and hopes for that particular child. Abby Kate’s passage was Isaiah 61:10, a text that hangs on the walls of her room so that it might be written in the halls of her heart.

This has long been our prayer for our daughter. Not only does she bring us great joy, but more importantly, we’ve wanted her to delight greatly in her Creator. And today, our prayers came to fruition. Our daughter professed her faith in Jesus by declaring His lordship over her life.

And this father couldn’t be more joyful.

Abby Kate, today you lived into your name. I can’t imagine how your Father in heaven could love you more than I do, but I believe this to be true. On behalf of both of us, you bring us such great joy. Go to peace, my dear. You are loved deeply.

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The Shrewd Manager – Luke 16:1-9

 

Luke 16:1-9

Jesus told his disciples, “There was a rich man whose manager was accused of wasting his possessions. So he called him in and asked him, ‘What is this I hear about you? Give an account of your management, because you cannot be manager any longer.’

The manager said to himself, ‘What shall I do now? My master is taking away my job. I’m not strong enough to dig, and I’m ashamed to beg – I know what I’ll do so that, when I lose my job here, people will welcome me into their houses.’

So he called in each one of his mater’s debtors. He asked the first, ‘How much do you owe my master?’ ‘Eight hundred gallons of olive oil,’ he replied. The manager told him, ‘Take your bill, sit down quickly, and make it four hundred.’

Then he asked the second, ‘And how much do you owe?’ ‘A thousand bushels of wheat,’ he replied. He told him, ‘Take your bill and make it eight hundred.’

The master commended the dishonest manager because he had acted shrewdly. For the people of this world are more shrewd in dealing with their own kind than are the people of the light. I tell you, use worldly wealth to gain friends for yourselves, so that when it is gone, you will be welcomed into eternal dwellings.”


This parable is just in the wrong neighborhood. It is right next door to the “lost” trifecta of chapter 15 and it comes directly on the heels of the prodigal son story, one of Jesus’ greatest hits.

This is like the song that comes on the radio right after your favorite song, the one that prompts you to quickly change the channel.

And this parable gives us fits, too. It bothers us that Jesus commends this dishonest manager. And so we think, “Is Jesus praising him for being dishonest?” That seems to rub up against the norms of piety we’ve known for most of our lives. And so, you’ll find some commentators going through all kinds of histrionics to make this guy seem more honorable. Some have gone so far as to suggest that the manager is merely reducing his own commission, thus saving his hide while not cheating his employer. But there are all sorts of problems with this, not the least of which being that Jesus never says anything of the sort. And besides that, if this were the case, we should ask why Jesus still calls the man “dishonest” in v8.

So, what do we do with this odd story? Well, here’s my best shot at it.

For starters, there’s this: beginning in chapter 9 and continuing through chapter 19 in Luke’s Gospel, Jesus is marching toward Jerusalem. As Jesus journeys, his teaching on discipleship intensifies. It’s no more Mr. Nice Guy when Jesus decides to “set his face toward Jerusalem” (9:51). The teaching in this section of Luke’s Gospel will prepare his followers for what must happen in Jerusalem — both the agony of the cross and the glory of the empty tomb.

Many of the themes we find from Luke 9-19 are bound up in this parable. Take stewardship, for example. Jesus lays out His definition of stewardship at Luke 12:48, From everyone who has been given much, much will be demanded; and from the one who has been entrusted with much, much more will be asked. The original invitees to the Great Banquet of chapter 14 were poor stewards of such a tremendous invitation and their places of honor were given to the poor, the crippled, the blind and the lame. Jesus critiques Israel for being poor stewards of their calling, noting that the call will move on to “the nations” – the pagan Gentiles. We could definitely say that the younger son of chapter 15 was a poor steward of his inheritance. And so, our dishonest manager in our text is yet another demonstration of poor stewardship – an example of “what not to do.”

Another of Luke’s themes, his emphasis on wealth and materialism, makes an appearance in this teaching. On the heels of this parable, Jesus says, “You cannot serve both God and Money.” When Luke says at 16:14 that the Pharisees were lovers of money, we understand that wealth (Mammon) has become their treasure. And Jesus accentuates this point with yet another story, this time about a rich man and a beggar named Lazarus.

And in all of this, we see a central theme emerge: People are to be loved and money is to be used. And the best way to use money is in service to loving people. Possessions are to be used in service to loving people. Too often, we invert these in our practice. We’ll use people and love money. People simply become means to an end when Mammon becomes our god.

The shrewd manager doesn’t “love” these people – but he’s wise enough to understand that money is to be used, not loved. So he uses the money to cultivate richer relationships, in the hopes that he’ll be welcomed into someone’s home when judgment comes.

How much more so should we – not as dishonest people, but as children of light – comprehend this truth that people are to be loved and money is to be used, not vice versa?


When I was 10 years old, my father passed away. Six years later, my Mother remarried a man named David. She and David met in the Singles class at our church. They were only married for about a year when Mom received her cancer diagnosis; she passed away a few months later. In the aftermath of her death, many of my Mother’s things ended up in David’s possession.

One of the things that ended up at his place was my Mother’s collection of dolls. These were the kind of dolls that my Mom had collected over the years and she put them in this display case in our living room. A few years ago, my sister, Tara, had mentioned to her husband, Richard, that she would love to have Mom’s doll collection. So, Richard went to David’s house and asked David if he would mind giving those dolls back to Tara since they belonged to her mother and had great sentimental value to her.

David replied by saying, “I won’t give them to you, but I’ll sell them to you.” And he gave Richard some ridiculously exorbitant price for the entire doll collection. Again, these dolls meant nothing to David; they were just sitting in a box in his attic, collecting dust. But rather than giving them back to us, he demanded a huge ransom for them. I think Richard ended up buying one doll and giving it to Tara for Christmas.


That’s not a tragic story, but it is a reminder that wealth and possessions are to be held rather loosely. What really counts are your relationships. People are to be loved and money is to be used, not vice versa.

So that seems to be at least one piece of what’s going on here.

But another important element here is this word “shrewd.” That seems to be a key word in this parable; the manager is praised for his shrewdness. It refers to a prudent person, a thinking person. The shrewd person is discerning. He possesses a degree of self-awareness but he also knows the lay of the land, knows the country he’s sleeping in. And he is able to put all of this together in a way that is wise.

It should be noted that the master praises the manager for his shrewdness, not for his dishonesty. Like all of us, this guy is a mixed bag, so it shouldn’t bother us that this unsavory character receives a little bit of praise for his shrewdness. Perhaps the master, like God Himself, is looking for something praiseworthy in this servant. And once his back is up against the wall, that shrewdness makes an appearance. So, the master sees it and praises the manager. He’s not baptizing everything about his character, just this one component.

This isn’t the only time Jesus preaches about the importance of shrewdness. In Matthew 10, Jesus sends the Twelve out to the lost sheep of Israel to preach of the nearness of the Kingdom. And he tells them, I am sending you out like sheep among wolves. Therefore be as shrewd as snakes and as innocent as doves (10:16). Shrewdness is part of the missional strategy Jesus calls the disciples to employ as they announce the nearness of the Kingdom. And, by virtue of this being a word for the church also, we understand that shrewdness is part of our missional strategy as well as we share the Good News with others.

Even earlier in Matthew’s Gospel, Jesus concludes the Sermon on the Mount with a word about shrewdness. In our translations, we read about the “wise man” who built his house upon the rock, but it’s the same word translated as “shrewd” in these other texts. Jesus says, Everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a shrewd man who built his house on the rock.

Back to our manager, he acts shrewdly to curry favor among his clients. He prudently calls in some of his account holders and cuts a few deals. The amount of the reduction here is significant. One scholar says, “The actual value of the reduction in each case has been computed to equal about…sixteen months’ wages for a soldier or a day laborer.”

This is an important point; more than just semantics: It’s not that a manager is commended for an act of dishonesty, but that a dishonest manager is commended for an act of prudence. These acts reflect well on the wise manager, but they also curry favor for the master. And in an ancient culture, a master’s honor was priceless. By reducing the amounts his clients owed, the manager helped give the master a more honorable name in the community.

What are the missional implications of that idea? Perhaps this idea of shrewdness and prudence would keep our hearts and minds pointed in the right missional direction.

I love the way part of this passage is translated in the Complete Jewish Bible. V8, CJB, “And the employer of the dishonest manager applauded him for acting so shrewdly! For the worldly have more sekhel than those who have received the light – in dealing with their own kind of people!”

The Hebrew word in this translation — sekhel — means “common sense, practical intelligence, wisdom.” Jesus says people of the world usually have more common sense about approaching their own kind than the children of the light possess.

Here is the manager’s common sense shrewdness: he takes decisive action in the face of judgment. He acts prudently in light of what’s coming. He can interpret the signs of the times and act accordingly.

One final example of this from the OT. In 1 Chronicles 12, men of Israel assemble at Hebron to fight for David “to turn Saul’s kingdom over to him, as the Lord had said,” (12:23). And the text lists how many thousands come from each tribe to fight for the cause of David. The tribes from the east of the Jordan – Rueben, Gad, and Manasseh – brought 120,000 troops! But the smallest number belonged to Issachar: 1 Chronicles 12:32, Men of Issachar, who understood the times and knew what Israel should do – 200 chiefs, with all their relatives under their command…

Only 200 men from Issachar, which doesn’t sound like many numerically. But the key was in their shrewdness. They knew the times and knew what Israel should do. And they deployed this shrewdness in the battle for the kingdom.

The shrewd are the ones who steward the moment well. They see past what is to see what will be. And they wisely deploy their resources in service to this eschatological vision.

On one hand, the parable of the shrewd manager is about those in Israel savvy enough to see what God was going to do in Jerusalem through Jesus. It seems to be directed at Israel with eyebrows arched: “Will you be shrewd enough to discern what is to come?” I think Jesus intends for this parable to goad Israel to see her Messiah and welcome him into these “dwellings” he refers to in this story.

And on the other hand, this parable is about those of us savvy enough to see what God is doing in our own time. I think Jesus speaks these words to us with eyebrows raised as well. And I think He has two questions for us. First, will we be shrewd enough to see what God has done through Jesus? And many of us came to that conclusion long ago. We said “Yes” to Jesus and that has made all the difference in our lives. Praise God for this!

But Jesus tells us this story and I think He still stands there with His eyebrows raised. I think He says, “I’m glad you’ve been shrewd enough to see where all of this is headed. Now, will you steward the moment well?” And in this word for us, Jesus intends for this parable to goad us into being good stewards of our current moment.

North America is increasingly a post-Christian culture. There has been a sea change in the religious landscape over the last 20-30 years. The number of self-identified “spiritual but not religious” or “religious nones” has multiplied exponentially in this generation. Church attendance and religious affiliation are in a freefall.

From Gallup’s Annual Faith and Beliefs Poll, May 2017:

Americans continue to express an increasingly liberal outlook on what is morally acceptable, as their views on 10 of 19 moral issues that Gallup measures are the most left-leaning or permissive they have been to date. The percentages of U.S. adults who believe birth control, divorce, sex between unmarried people, gay or lesbian relations, having a baby outside of marriage, doctor-assisted suicide, pornography and polygamy are morally acceptable practices have tied record highs or set new ones this year.

This particular moment requires tremendous savvy, shrewdness, and common sense from God’s people.

Will we steward this moment well?

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God With Us

Many people know the first verse of the Bible so well that they could recite it from memory: Genesis 1:1, “In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth.” This foundational truth grounds all that follows in Scripture.

But do you know the last verse of the Bible? This one might be a bit more difficult. It’s Revelation 22:21 and it says, “The grace of the Lord Jesus be with God’s people. Amen.” The Bible begins with a cosmic backdrop: God speaking  the world into existence, creating the sun and moon and the heavens and the earth. But the Bible ends with these simple words of hope and promise: May the grace of Jesus be with God’s people.

There is one small word in that sentence, a powerful word that makes all the difference in our lives. It’s the word “with” — the word that connects the grace of God found in Jesus to our lives. It’s as if God has made us this beautiful promise that He doesn’t want us to forget before we put our Bibles down. And it’s a promise that’s predicated on that one little word: “with.” In Jesus, God has made a promise to be with us.

There is no more comforting thought for us, I believe, than the idea of God being with us. When I was a child, I felt this way about my Dad. He could bring me comfort just from his presence. It seemed like my Dad knew a little bit about everything. Maybe you’ve had someone like that in your life: a parent, a grandparent, your spouse, a good friend. There are certain people who bring us comfort and confidence just by their presence alone.

If you’ve had a relationship like that in your life, I think that gives you a window to look through as we read our text for tonight.

Matthew 1:18-23

This is how the birth of Jesus Christ came about: His mother Mary was pledged to be married to Joseph, but before they came together, she was found to be with child through the Holy Spirit. Because Joseph her husband was a righteous man and did not want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce her quietly.

But after he had considered this, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream and said, “Joseph son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary home as your wife, because what is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit. She will give birth to a son, and you are to give him the name Jesus, because he will save his people from their sins.

All this took place to fulfill what the Lord had said through the prophet: “The virgin will be with child and will give birth to a son, and they will call him Immanuel” – which means, “God with us.”

Matthew says the birth of Jesus fulfills a prophecy from Isaiah, specifically Isaiah 7:14. 700 years before the birth of Jesus, Isaiah makes this prophecy: that a virgin will conceive and give birth to a son and he will be Immanuel, God With Us. Just for a point of reference, this would be like Christopher Columbus’ great-grandfather predicting the winner of this year’s Iron Bowl. It is only through the power of God that Isaiah is able to make this prophecy.

These circumstances all come together in the birth of Jesus. As the text says here, He was born of a virgin. And that leads us to the first point we can make from this text tonight: Christ’s unique birth parallels his unique death. It foreshadows His distinct and unique life. Everything about Jesus is different:

  • The way He lives is unique and uncommon: He lived a sinless life. Hebrews 4:15 says that Jesus has been tempted in every way, just as we are – yet was without sin. The temptations He faced may have been common — He faced every kind of temptation, just like we do — but His response to those temptations was unique. He was without sin.
  • The way He teaches is uncommon: He teaches as one with authority. Mark 1:22. His teaching has authority because He is the incarnate Word of God.
  • The way He prays is uncommon; the way He views the world is uncommon; His death was uncommon and His resurrection was uncommon.

Everything about Jesus is unique. But most importantly, his death was unique. To this, the Scriptures testify:

  • 1 Peter 3:18 (NASB), For Christ died for sins once for all, the just for the unjust, so that He might bring us to God, having been put to death in the flesh, but made alive in the spirit. 
  • Romans 6:10 (NASB), For the death that He died, He died to sin once for all; but the life that He lives, He lives to God. 

In both His unique birth and His unique death, we see Jesus as Immanuel, as God in the flesh, God with us.

So it’s fair to say that the birth of Jesus is a unique event. But for all His uniqueness, the Bible also points to the fact that Jesus can relate to our experience in the flesh. This is our second point for tonight: Jesus can sympathize with our weaknesses. 

The Hebrew writer makes this especially clear in Hebrews 4:14-16:

Therefore, since we have a great high priest who has gone through the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold firmly to the faith we profess. For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are – yet was without sin. Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need. 

The Hebrew writer tells us that Jesus knows the human condition well, having been tempted in every way just as we are tempted. Now, His uniqueness is that He remained without sin. But the fact that Jesus faced the same temptations we face makes Him relatable. When we say to Him, “Lord, this is hard,” He replies, “I know. I remember.”

The Hebrew writer says that Jesus can sympathize with out weaknesses. Newer translations use the word “empathize,” which is probably a better fit. Jesus can identify with us. He’s been there. He knows a thing or two about difficult circumstances. He can empathize.

I read an article about an interesting medical school training technique in Germany. In order to help 20-year-old med school students to feel genuine empathy for senior citizens, they make them put on what is known as “The Age Man Suit,” a custom built suit to simulate the physical consequences of old age. The suit, which weighs over 20 pounds, consists of the following:

  • Ear-protectors that stifle hearing
  • A yellow visor that blurs eyesight and makes it hard to distinguish colors
  • Knee and elbow pads which stiffen the joints
  • A Kevlar-jacket-style vest which presses uncomfortably against the chest
  • And padded gloves to simulate arthritic hands

Dr. Rahel Eckhardt from Berlin, Germany helps strap the suit onto the med students as she tells them, “Welcome to old age.” She says, “My aim is to turn young energetic people into slow, creaking beings, temporarily at least. That way they will develop a feeling for what it’s like to be old.” Eckardt argues that there is a huge disconnect between large sections of the medical profession and their elderly patients, as well as a desperate lack of doctors willing to go into geriatric medicine.

“Rather than a PowerPoint presentation, this is the best way of giving them a real idea of what it’s like to be old,” she says. “Only once we have their empathy can we really begin to win students around to becoming interested in old people as patients.”

This sounds an awful lot like what Jesus went through, putting on flesh so that He could empathize with us. Jesus is Immanuel, God with us, in the sense that He can sympathize / empathize with our weakness. He has compassion on us in our weakness.

And that leads us to a final point: His compassion is the source of our confidence. If Jesus, as our Great High Priest, can sympathize with our weaknesses, then this compassion should infuse us with confidence.

And that’s what the Hebrew writer is saying. The Hebrew writer is ultimately encouraging us to be confident in prayer. When we pray, how often do you hear someone say, “Lord, please be with so and so.” We pray this all the time. And I love it. It’s as if these are the best words we have to express what’s in our hearts. When we care for someone, we simply ask God to present with him/her, assuming that if God is with them, then all will be well.

Biblical confidence comes from a belief in the compassionate presence of God. Look at these examples:

  • Moses (Exodus 3), the burning bush. God calls Moses to return to Egypt, the site of his greatest moral failure, in order to free the people from slavery and lead them to the Promised Land. But Moses balks and says, “Who am I? They won’t listen! I’m afraid!” But listen to what God says, “I will be with you.” (Ex. 3:17). God says, If you have me on your side, you don’t need to worry.
  • Joshua (Joshua 1), the successor to Moses. He has quite a job ahead of him as he stands on the brink of the promise land, about to launch a military strike to reclaim this land for Israel. Joshua’s knees might’ve buckled a bit. But God comes to Joshua and says the same thing: “Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” (Josh. 1:9)

The 23rd Psalm is the most beloved chapter in the Bible, primarily because it confidently asserts: Yea though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for thou art with me. This word has brought comfort to an untold number of believers over the years, because it speaks to the deepest desires of our hearts — to know that God is with us.

Are you a believer in the compassionate presence of God? Perhaps there are certain fears that you wrestle with periodically. Maybe you’re like Moses and you’re haunted by the ghosts of a past moral failing. Maybe you’re like Joshua and you’re fearful of the task that’s ahead of you. Maybe it’s something else entirely. Whatever it is, God’s response to His people seems to be consistent: I’m with you.

If we are in need of this reminder, we need look no further than Jesus, the child who confirms once and for all that God is with us.

Followers of Jesus carry this promise around with them – that God has come near to us. In Jesus, God is with us, God is for us, God is on our side. And that should give us confidence.

May we look to Immanuel, God With Us.

And may the grace of the Lord Jesus be with God’s people. Amen.

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The Path to Wisdom

We have at our disposal today more knowledge than at any time in history. They say that more information has been produced in the last thirty years than in the previous five thousand. Today information doubles every four years. Since the advent of the Internet we have more knowledge at our fingertips than we can possibly process.

But knowledge and education is different than wisdom. What is the difference? I like this comparison: Knowledge is gathered from learning and education, while wisdom is gathered from day-to-day experiences. That means knowledge is information of which someone is aware, whereas wisdom is the ability to make correct judgments and decisions.

Our world has plenty of knowledge and education, but that doesn’t necessarily translate into wisdom. In fact, wisdom can often be learned from those who are uneducated. Take children for instance. A recent interviewer asked a group of children to give an example of wisdom. Here’s what they said:

  • Patrick, age 10, says, “Never trust a dog to watch your food.”
  • Michael, age 10, says, “When your dad is mad and asks you, ‘Do I look stupid?’ don’t answer him.”
  • Randy, 9 years of age said, “Stay away from prunes.” One has to wonder how poor Randy discovered that bit of wisdom.
  • Eileen, age 8 says, “Never try to baptize a cat.”

So, there’s a big difference between knowledge and wisdom. The Bible has much to say about wisdom. More than any other place in the Bible, the book of Proverbs is God’s guidebook to us for how we should go about acquiring wisdom.

Let’s think about three principles, three essential steps on the path to wisdom from the book of Proverbs:

  1. Step 1: The Fear of the LORD
    1. 1.7, The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction.
    2. The quest for wisdom begins with fear of the Lord. What does this mean? Here are some of the key elements:
      1. Reverence – comes from understanding God’s character. Respect for God’s “otherness”. He is holy; I am not. A major point of discussion in our country right now centers around reverence and the singing of the national anthem. But what about reverence for God? The fear of the Lord produces reverence.
      2. Submission – understanding who I am in light of who God is. Knowing that He is God and I am not.
      3. Humility – closely related. The reason we don’t like submission is because we don’t like humility. But the fear of the Lord produces a sense of humility – born from knowing who God is.
      4. Moral training
        1. In the 1950s, two doctors (one, a psychologist and, the other, a psychiatrist) shared the belief that crime was primarily the product of environment. So, they embarked on a 17-year study involving thousands of hours of clinical testing of 250 inmates in DC. To their astonishment, they discovered that the cause of crime cannot be traced to one’s environment, poverty, or oppression. Instead, they realized that crime is the result of individuals making, as they put it, “wrong moral choices.” In their 1977 book, “The Criminal Personality”, they concluded that the answer to crime is a “conversion of the wrong-doer to a more responsible lifestyle.”
        2. And the Proverbs echo somewhere in the distance: The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge. Ultimately, the fear of the Lord produces a lifestyle of faithful obedience.
        3. Importance of training and educating our children at an early age:
          1. Deut. 6 – Shema Israel – and the practical application is that these commands are to be talked about at all times, all circumstances.
          2. Prov. 22.6 – Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
        4. Fear of the Lord manifests itself in a life of obedience. That’s the path to wisdom.
  1. Step 2: Mentoring
    1. Remember our definition of wisdom: it is gathered from day-to-day experiences, which leads to the ability to make godly judgments and decisions. That means life is probably the best teacher. There are certain lessons I’ve learned in my 40 years that have been invaluable to me.
    2. But it also means that the younger we are, the less wisdom we have. It just stands to reason. The fewer experiences we have, the less wisdom we will possess.
    3. But that means that we need older, wiser voices to mentor and coach and teach us along the way. This morning – looked at Deborah. Much of the book of Proverbs operates in this same way.
    4. Proverbs 1-9 is written in the voice of a father talking to his son, imparting wisdom to him for godly living. Just listen to some of these verses and the mentoring / coaching / teaching that takes place:
      1. 1.8 – Hear, my son, your father’s instruction, and forsake not your mother’s teaching…
      2. 2.1, 5 – My son, if you receive my words and treasure up my commandments with you…then you will understand the fear of the Lord and find the knowledge of God.
      3. 3.1, 2 – My son, do not forget my teaching, but let your heart keep my commandments, for length of days and years of life and peace they will add to you.
      4. 4.1 – Hear, O sons, a father’s instruction and be attentive that you may gain insight
      5. 4.10 – Hear, my son, and accept my words, that the years of your life may be many.
      6. 4.20-21 – My son, be attentive to my words; incline your ear to my sayings. Let them not escape from your sight; keep them within your heart.
      7. 5.1 – My son, be attentive to my wisdom; incline your ear to my understanding, that you may keep discretion, and yoru lips may guard knowledge.
      8. 5.20 – Why should you be intoxicated, my son, with a forbidden woman and embrace the bosom of an adulteress?
    5. This is just the tip of the iceberg in Proverbs, coming from the first five chapters. I want to be that Dad that’s writing these Proverbs. Full of wisdom to impart to the young.
    6. We live in a youth-obsessed culture. Young athletes are given million dollar contracts before they ever touch the court / ball field. From hair dye to Botox to Viagra to wrinkle cream to plastic surgery, the race is on to be, as Rod Stewart sang, “Forever Young.” It’s hard to believe that some of our founding fathers powdered their wigs gray in order to appear older and wiser. Being “old” was “in” back then!
    7. But the church stands as a place where all people are valued, regardless of age, status, gender, etc.
      1. Older generation – you have a responsibility to mentor & teach
      2. Younger generation – you have a responsibility to listen & learn
      3. But we can’t accomplish these responsibilities without each other.
  1. Step 3: Discipline
    1. Nobody likes discipline. But it’s necessary. Whether you’re training dogs or raising children, discipline is necessary.
    2. We live in undisciplined, unrestrained times. For 40 years, Burger King’s slogan was “Have It Your Way” and that’s a good description of our culture. But this seems to be something that’s always plagued humanity. Throughout the book of Judges, there’s a line that comes up repeatedly: And everyone did what was right in his own eyes. With that phrase, the Bible paints a picture of an undisciplined, reckless people.
    3. To be a Christian is to live a disciplined life. Disciple is literally one who disciplines himself / herself under the teaching of another. To be a disciple of Jesus is to subject yourself to his instruction, his leadership.
    4. He who heeds discipline shows the way to life, but whoever ignores correction leads others astray. – Prov. 10.17
      1. Simon Peter – Seems predisposed to be able to withstand the Lord’s discipline. Matt. 16, Confesses Jesus’ identity as the Son of God. The very next episode, he receives the rebuke, “Get behind me, Satan!” Needed to be disciplined, corrected. That’s not harsh – in fact, Simon Peter would say, “I’m glad the Lord loved me enough to discipline me!”
      2. Some could be said of Paul – on the road to Damascus, the Lord gets his attention. Disciplines him, but graciously re-directs him to become an evangelist.
    5. James Packer, “The opposite of wisdom is folly, meaning the short-term self-indulgence which marks out the person who doesn’t think about long-term priorities…but lives on a day-to-day basis asking, ‘What is the most fun thing to do now?’”
    6. The disciplined life asks a fundamentally different question: “What can I do for the Kingdom of God right now?”
    7. 3.11, My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline or be weary of his reproof, for the Lord reproves him who he loves, as a father the son in whom he delights.
    8. 6.22-23, The iniquities of the wicked ensnare him, and he is held fast in the cords of his sin. He dies for lack of discipline, and because of his great folly he is led astray.

 

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The Santa Claus Break-Up

The other day I was at the pool with our youngest, age 10. While Jackson was swimming, a little girl lost a tooth in the pool. For about 10 minutes, every kid in the pool was putting on their goggles and diving down to the pool floor in the hopes of finding the lost tooth. I bet Jackson dove down two dozen times as part of the search party. But in the end, nobody ever found the tooth. For all I know, it’s still on the bottom of the pool.

As Jackson and I were leaving, the girl’s mother had her arms wrapped around the child, trying to console her. “Maybe the Tooth Fairy will still come and see you tonight,” she said desperately. Since I was the only adult within earshot at the time, the Mom looked up as she was talking and gave me one of those knowing raised-eyebrow-head-nods as if to enlist me to the cause as well. Realizing that I suddenly had a part to play, I said, “Yeah, I hear the Tooth Fairy doesn’t even take your tooth anymore; she just leaves money.” Not great, but the best I could do on short notice. The little girl didn’t even look up at me, so I quickly looked to the mother with my own raised-eyebrow expression, silently asking, “Good enough?” She thanked me with a smile and I walked to the truck with the satisfaction that I had played such a key role in helping to maintain the child’s innocence.

When we got in the truck, Jackson casually announced, “Dad, I don’t believe in magic anymore.”

“What are you talking about?”

“You know, magic stuff like the Tooth Fairy.”

“Really?”

“Yeah, that’s just the parents giving money to their kids.”

For years, we’ve encouraged our kids to ask us anything and we promised that our answers would be as honest as possible. Our older children have taken us up on this and we had some version of this conversation with each of them independently. But neither of them ever declared their lack of faith so brazenly. Jackson, being the youngest, wasn’t exactly asking me anything. He was telling me.

I said, “Well, that’s an interesting theory.”

Jackson rolled his eyes. “Dad. It’s not a theory. There’s no such thing as the Tooth Fairy. Right?”

There it is! I thought. There’s still that little bit of doubt. He still has to ask in order to be sure. But we promised honesty. So I gave him an honest answer. “Right,” I said. “There’s no Tooth Fairy.”

“Good,” he replied. “I always thought it was creepy that somebody else was coming into my room at night anyway.”

That’s a really good point, I thought.

But Jackson continued. “I don’t believe in the Easter Bunny either. That’s just parents, too.”

I sat there silently.

“Isn’t that right?”

Again, an honest answer for an honest question. “Yes, son. There’s no such thing as the Easter Bunny either.”

We sat in silence for a long moment. This is the sound of his childhood dying, I thought.

Finally Jackson took a deep breath and said, “I also don’t believe in Ollie.”

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Ollie is the name of our “elf” who visits us every year in the weeks leading up to Christmas. For as far back as I can remember, Ollie comes to our house the first night our Christmas tree is up. By day, he looks like an ordinary doll, one you might find on the shelves of your favorite department store. But at night, Ollie comes to life and magically teleports back to the North Pole to report all your deeds, either good or bad, directly to Santa Claus himself. Or something like that. After giving his naughty-or-nice report, Ollie rides a wave of magical pixie dust to arrive back to our house by sunrise. Our proof of this 10,000 mile roundtrip adventure is that Ollie is in a different location in our home each morning.

I said, “So, how do you think Ollie moves around the house? You don’t think he flies to the North Pole each night?”

Jackson said, “I saw the box that y’all keep him in. Mom keeps it hidden in your closet.”

I sat there silently, thinking to myself, When were you going through my closet?

“Ollie’s not real, is he, Dad?”

“Nope. Not real.”

Another long silence ensued.

“So, that’s it,” I said. “You don’t believe in the Tooth Fairy, the Easter Bunny, or Ollie. Is there anything else you want to tell me?”

Jackson paused. “Well…I guess that just leaves Santa.”

“Yep,” I said. “Just Santa.”

We had come right here to the brink and yet Jackson was still a bit hesitant. It’s like he was trying to break up with me about Santa, only he couldn’t find the right words. Finally, he just went for it.

“Dad, Santa isn’t real. Is he?”

“Nope. He’s not.”

That’s when I told Jackson what I told his older brother and sister: Santa Claus is just a game that parents play with their kids. When the kids are really little, it’s a lot of fun because of that sense of “magic.” But as the kids get older, the game gets harder and harder. I told him it always bothered me that “Santa” got credit for all the cool gifts anyway. “Honestly, I’m glad you know now,” I told him. “It’ll make things so much easier on your mother and me this Christmas.”

“What do you mean?”

“Well, now that the cat’s out of the bag, I don’t have to buy you all those Santa presents anymore!”

“Oh,” Jackson said.

Another long pause.

“Dad?”

“Yes, son?”

“We can still play the game, can’t we? Even though I know? I mean, it’s still a fun game.”

And something just felt right about the idea of knowing and yet still playing the game. I wanted to tell my son that I don’t believe in magic anymore either, but I still believe in wonder and I still believe in hope. And that’s what the game has always been about for me anyway.

“Absolutely, son. We can still play the game.”

Jackson smiled.

“Besides,” I told him. “Your older brother and sister still think Santa is real.”

I know, I know. But don’t tell him yet. It makes the game so much more fun.

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The Fear of the Lord

Whether it’s television, movies, or literature, the oldest trick in the book is the surprise ending, the twist at the end that changes everything. You know how it works: the character you thought was the hero actually turns out to be the villain or the twist at the end makes you question everything you’ve seen and heard up to that point.

The end makes all the difference.

I guess we could say that idea originates in the Bible. The book of Ecclesiastes ends with a “twist” that puts the entire book in perspective.

One commentator writes, “Ecclesiastes is one of the most puzzling books of the Bible. The theme of the book appears in the prologue: ‘Meaningless! Meaningless! Everything is meaningless!’ The general conclusion comes in the epilogue, which speaks of fearing God and keeping his commandments because we must one day give account to him. The meaning and purpose of the book must be discovered within this framework.”

Ecclesiastes 12:13-14

Now all has been heard; here is the conclusion of the matter: Fear God and keep his commandments, for this is the whole duty of man. For God will bring every deed into judgment, including every hidden thing, whether it is good or evil.

Ecclesiastes has traditionally been attributed to Solomon. Solomon says that the whole duty of man is to fear God and keep his commands. This is life’s meaning, purpose; but the twist is that Solomon has been crying out about the meaningless of life up until the very end!

Fear – Hebrew scholars say that the word is used two different ways:

  1. The anticipation of harm – a sense of dread. This is the typical way we think of fear. In 3:10, Adam says to God, “I heard you in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid.” Obviously there are times when “fearing the Lord” includes this kind of fearful anticipation.
  2. The positive feeling of awe and reverence for God, which may be expressed in piety or formal worship.

The children of Israel feared God – they feared being harmed, feared that God would “break out against them” (Ex. 19). But their fear never moved to the positive sense of awe and reverence for God, because it wasn’t too long afterward they were bowing down before a golden calf.

The Pharisees were guilty of this same fear-based religion. Second Temple Judaism was marked by a tremendous amount of fear – fear of exile led to the stringent practices we see in the Pharisees of Jesus’ day. In Matthew 23, Jesus says that the Pharisees “preach but do not practice. They tie up heavy burdens, hard to bear, and lay them on people’s shoulders, but they themselves are not willing to move them with their finger.” The Pharisees used fear to keep people in line, which is one of the reasons they had such a problem with Jesus. He wasn’t afraid of them.

Should we have a healthy appreciation for God’s holiness? Absolutely. But the fear of the Lord doesn’t mean that we live our lives quaking with fear. That is not the best motivation for being a Christian. God desires that we have an understanding of His love and that we come to Him in love. That is the best motivation for following Him.

So what, then, does it mean to fear the Lord? The Bible uses the word “fear” over 300 times in relation to God, so we make a huge mistake if we downplay it. What does it mean?

Put simply, it means to trust Him.

One resource puts it this way: “The fear of God is an attitude of respect, a response of reverence and wonder. It is the only appropriate response to our Creator and Redeemer.”

And this is Solomon’s big twist at the end of Ecclesiastes.

The book of Ecclesiastes is a systematic attack on the meaningless of everything if one does not first fear and obey the Lord. Or as we sing sometimes, to trust and obey Him.

Ecclesiastes 1:2

“Meaningless! Meaningless!” says the Teacher. “Utterly meaningless! Everything is meaningless.”

Solomon begins with a pretty bold statement, one that is depressing apart from the ending. Everything is meaningless! Solomon doesn’t offer up any explanation at the beginning of this sermon, he just states the fact that everything is completely meaningless.

And the rest of the book is a deconstruction of the things that typically give meaning to life.

Skipping ahead, Solomon says that the pursuit of wisdom is meaningless.

Ecclesiastes 1:12-14

I, the Teacher, was king over Israel in Jerusalem. I devoted myself to study and to explore by wisdom all that is done under heaven. What a heavy burden God has laid on men! I have seen all the things that are done under the sun; all of them are meaningless, a chasing after the wind.

He goes on to say that he devoted himself to acquiring wisdom, but he calls this meaningless, chasing after the wind.

(I used to think about this verse when I was learning Greek and Hebrew in school. Meaningless!)

Have you ever tried to learn some new skill?

Had to learn something new in business, some new strategy that you needed to implement to grow your industry?

Have you ever tried to figure something out, worked hard to study something in school?

How about studying God’s Word to try and learn and grow to become a better Christian?

Solomon says that is all meaningless, unless we fear God and learn to obey Him.

Then Solomon goes on to say that the pursuit of pleasure and happiness, even laughter, is meaningless.

Ecclesiastes 2:1-2

I thought in my heart, “Come now, I will test you with pleasure to find out what is good. But that also proved meaningless. “Laughter,” I said, “is foolish. And what does pleasure accomplish?”

Medically, we know laughter is really good for us. Have you heard the phrase, “Laughter is the best medicine?” The reason that’s a popular saying is because there’s some truth to it. Laughter strengthens your immune system, boosts mood, diminishes pain, and protects you from the damaging effects of stress. Doctors say that nothing works faster or more dependably to bring your mind and body back into balance than a good laugh. It lightens your burdens, inspires hope, connects you to others, and keeps you grounded. It also helps you to release anger and be more forgiving.

Laughter is really, really good for us. It’s hardly meaningless.

But again, the ending is essential. Laughter IS meaningless unless it is accompanied by the fear of the Lord and the desire to live in obedience to Him.

Solomon then turns his attention on work and labor.

Ecclesiastes 2:17-21

So I hated life, because the work that is done under the sun was grievous to me. All of it is meaningless, a chasing after the wind. I hated all the things I had toiled for under the sun, because I must leave them to the one who comes after me. And who knows whether he will be a wise man or a fool? Yet he will have control over all the work into which I have poured my effort and skill under the sun. This too is meaningless. So my heart began to despair over all my toilsome labor under the sun. For a man may do his work with wisdom, knowledge and skill, and then he must leave all he owns to someone who has not worked for it. This too is meaningless and a great misfortune.

At this point, we might start thinking that Solomon needs a hug. He says that even work and toil are meaningless. And his proof of this is that one day we have to turn over all of our projects to someone else. We have to turn over all that we’ve worked for and give it to someone who might be wise or might be foolish!

This proves the danger of proof-texting, of grabbing a passage of Scripture and reading it outside of its context. If you just opened up your Bible and read this passage, it might lead you to quit your job, to lay around the house all day and do nothing — which are the kinds of things that are condemned elsewhere in the Bible!

So, what is Solomon saying? Again, the ending is essential. His argument only makes sense when you hear it in totality. He’s saying that work and toil isn’t a sufficient goal for human life. Unless accompanied by the fear of the Lord, a life of work and toil is essentially meaningless.

So, what does it mean to fear the Lord?

Again, it means to trust and obey Him. To trust Him so much that nothing else matters; to trust Him to the degree that everything else is absolutely meaningless, a chasing after the wind.

 

And this life of trusting obedience is demonstrated in the NT church:

Acts 9:31

Then the church throughout Judea, Galilee and Samaria enjoyed a time of peace. It was strengthened; and encouraged by the Holy Spirit, it grew in numbers, living in the fear of the Lord.

This morning, one of our members talked to me after church, talked about fear. He said, “You know what I always tell myself about fear? I’ll say, ‘Fear God and nothing else.’ That’s the good kind of fear.”

Indeed.

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The New Sound of Nashville: Jason Isbell

A few weeks ago, I lamented that so much of the mainstream country music coming out of Nashville these days simply isn’t country music. Pop music sung with a twang and a drawl is still pop music. And for longtime country music fans like myself, this is a problem.

But thank goodness for guys like Jason Isbell.

Isbell made a name for himself 15 years ago as a member of the Drive-By Truckers. Since leaving the band, Isbell went solo, went through rehab for substance abuse, and has emerged as one of this generation’s best singer-songwriters. Although most of his songs are not autobiographical, it feels like they are, as if he’s lived the stories he sings. Call it believability; call it street cred; call it masterful storytelling; whatever it is, it makes for a more full-bodied, “authentic” country music experience.

Take Isbell’s 2013 masterpiece, Southeastern. Following Isbell’s 2012 rehab stint, he emerged clear eyed and focused with a work of art borne out of a period of life he compares to a “dungeon.” And this liberated perspective sustains Southeastern though some of its bleaker moments. I still contend that album opener “Cover Me Up” is the most romantic song I’ve ever heard. And “Traveling Alone” sounds like the fog lifting. When the album closes with the line “My lonely heart beats relatively easy”, you find yourself hoping it’s one of those autobiographical lines.

Even though Isbell cut his teeth as part of an alt-country Southern rock troupe, his artistry embodies the new sound of Nashville’s indie country scene. That’s the not-so-subtle message of his newest album title, “The Nashville Sound.” After sweeping the Americana Music Awards with his past two solo recordings, Isbell has returned with his backing band, the 400 Unit. In fact, “Americana” may be a truer label for Isbell than “country”, given the amped up sound on several of the album’s tracks. But Isbell largely stays in the narrative-driven roots-country lane he’s been in for the past five years. I dare you not to get a little misty-eyed when listening to “If We Were Vampires.”

Just don’t expect to hear anything so heartfelt or affecting on mainstream country airwaves.

 

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Better Angels: Flag Day 2017

The lesson my kids learned today in D.C. — “As Americans, we don’t shoot one another over our political differences.”

Today we were scheduled to tour the White House with Martha Brooks, the wife of our congressman, Mo Brooks. She arrived and apologized for being a few minutes late. She had just learned about the news we’ve now been following all day: a gunman opened fire at a baseball field in Alexandria, VA early this morning, injuring House Majority Whip Steve Scalise, several congressional staffers, and two Capitol police officers. Mo was among the group of GOP congressmen the shooter allegedly targeted. Thankfully, Mo was unharmed and he was even able to give aid to the injured.

A half hour after all of this went down, Martha met us at the Visitor’s Gate at the White House.

We told her that we’d be fine, that we totally understood if she felt she needed to be elsewhere. Instead, she graciously stayed by our side for the duration of our tour, offering insight and remaining especially attentive to our children’s questions while her phone blew up with texts and calls. Honestly, I don’t know how she was able to do it. Her composure was something wondrous to behold.

One of the Secret Service agents stationed in the East Room recognized Martha and came up to console her. She thanked him for his concern, saying with a smile, “Other than the fact that someone tried to shoot my husband this morning, I’m fine!”

The Bybee family with Martha Brooks, Flag Day, 2017

At the conclusion of our tour, we snapped this picture with Mrs. Brooks. Yesterday, she hosted us on an amazing tour of the Capitol. Mo took the kids with him on the House floor and they even had the chance to cast a few votes and rub elbows with some other congressmen. By this morning, Mo Brooks was a trending topic on Twitter, his quick thinking and heroic action one of the bright spots in an ugly news story that says much about our current political climate.

You hear about these kinds of things from time to time, but it was surreal to be so close to the situation, to see the “real” people being impacted by the events that make headlines. It was also difficult to see our children confronting the reality of evil in such a visceral way. It didn’t make sense to them. “Why would someone want to shoot our elected officials?” Not exactly the kinds of conversations we were anticipating when we planned this family vacation to the nation’s capital. Try explaining this kind of garbage to a nine-year-old.

But in the end, as the better angels of our nature prevail, we remember that our fellow citizens — even the ones with whom we most strongly disagree — are just that: fellow citizens. They are fellow sons and daughters, sisters and brothers. Today I’m grateful for people like Mo and Martha Brooks, individuals who not only represent me as a North Alabamian, but more importantly, as an American. Mo, your dedication to your country and your fellow citizens is evident. Thank you for your service. And, Martha, my children will not soon forget your strength and dignity in adversity. Nor will I. People like you renew my hope in the national ideals we hold so dear.

Praying for you all and for all those injured in today’s shooting.

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Back Porch Eschatology Is The Best Eschatology

While grilling some chicken last night, Jackson brought me his Bible. (He wanted a “real” Bible the other day, rather than a “kids” Bible, so we stopped and let him pick one out.) He had been reading Genesis 1 and he had a question about creation. Our conversation about creation prompted an exchange about eternity and Jackson said, “I think heaven will be like going back to the Garden of Eden.” I said, “Well, in many ways, there’s some truth to that. Things will probably be something like they were in the Garden. But God says that the end isn’t a return to the Garden but instead it’s life in the eternal city, the new Jerusalem.”

Jackson sat there blinking at me.

So we read through Revelation 21&22 and did a little “new heavens, new earth” theology together. I told him that heaven wasn’t some far away disembodied existence where we float around on clouds and ride raindrops and all of that stuff. Instead, God promises to renew and redeem the earth, to restore it back to its originally good purposes. So when humanity made a mess of the creation God deemed to be “good”, He didn’t give up on those purposes. Rather, He’s working toward the achievement of those good purposes once more. That’s eternity, the place where things are “good” once again. The new heavens, the new earth, and the new Jerusalem all point to the work of God who will make “all things new” (Rev. 21:5).

Jackson said, “I like the sound of that.”

I do, too.

Back porch eschatology is the best kind of eschatology.

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The Problem with Country Music (2017)

I love country music. As in, I LOVE country music. Growing up in Nashville, country music was ubiquitous, but nowhere more than our home. I’m not sure I was aware that other genres of music even existed when I was a child. Around our house, music was country music. One of my earliest memories is singing along to Johnny Cash records with my Dad. I was shocked and a little appalled when I learned that the other kids in the neighborhood didn’t know all the words to Folsom Prison Blues. So when I say I love country music, I have street cred, people. In fact, I love country music so much that my youngest son’s middle name is an homage to Cash.

But country music, at least mainstream country music produced on Music Row in 2017, has a problem.

Country music isn’t country music anymore.

It’s probably a bit too dramatic to say that country music has lost its “soul”, although plenty of critics have come to that conclusion. Stadium country, Bro-country, country-pop…there are plenty of terms to describe the dreck on the country airwaves these days, but none of them are good. Aesthetically, there is a certain assembly-line approach to Nashville country that many find off-putting. Comedian Bo Burnham nails Nashville’s cookie-cutter approach to record making:

“I think some of the greatest songwriters of all time are country artists. Dolly Parton, Willie Nelson, you know? And if you’re writing honestly, that is art, and I would never bash that. The problem is, with a lot of modern country music, what is called stadium country music—the sort of Keith Urban brand of country music—is that it is not honest. It is the exact opposite of honest. Where instead of people actually telling their stories, you’ve got a bunch of [millionaires] who’ve never done a hard days work in their life.”

“They figured out the words and the phrases they can use to pander to their audience, and they list the same words and phrases off sort of Mad Lib style. And every song is raking in millions of dollars from actual working class people.”

Insert a backroad party reference here, a pickup truck / tractor there, name drop a classic country artist like Willie or Merle, simmer over a bed of pedal steel and electric guitar for three and half minutes and…voila! There’s your Mad Libs template for a bona fide country hit. The only interchangeable piece is the (usually male) artist on the stage. And that’s the state of modern country music: an artistically bankrupt wasteland where Luke Bryan and Dierks Bentley (ad nauseam) are kings.

Thankfully, “real” country music is still alive and well, albeit far away from the plastic sound of Nashville’s airwaves. Thanks to the proliferation of digital music and the accessibility it provides, artists like Sturgill Simpson and Jason Isbell are carrying the torch for fans of authentic country music. I’ll highlight a few of these artists over my next few posts.

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